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The #1 People Principle

The #1 People Principle:
“Never let the situation mean more than the relationship.”

For years, I allowed my ego to get in the way of my relationships.
For years, I allowed small disagreements to tear me apart from meaningful relationships.
For years, I put the situation ahead of my friendships. Perhaps it was my age and immaturity at the time.

Perhaps a dose of perspective and bigger thinking. Without a doubt, you know you’re growing as a leader of emotional intelligence when you realize it’s more rewarding to resolve a situation than dissolve a relationship.

When I coach one-on-one with my executive leadership clients, I ask them to take a hard look and think about their personal and professional relationships. I ask them to look at the following lists and determine which words best describe them:

  • Unstable or Steady
  • Closed or Open
  • Selfish or Serving
  • Draining or Energizing
  • Insecure or Confident
  • Conditional or Compassionate
  • Ruling or Gracious
  • Performance or Giving
Coaching Questions:
  • What relationship do you need to shore up that matters a lot to you?
  • How prone are you to damage long-term relationships? What can you change to break that unhealthy pattern?
  • Under what circumstances does a relationship legitimately become less important than the situation?
  • Have you been able to repair an important relationship in the last 6-12 months?
  • Have you apologized?
  • What can you do going forward to improve or restore that relationship?
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Steve Gutzler is the President of Leadership Quest, a Seattle-based leadership development company. Steve is a dynamic, highly-sought-after speaker who has delivered more than 2,500 presentations to a list of clients including Microsoft, Starbucks, the Seattle Seahawks, Pandora Radio, Boeing, Cisco, Starwood Corporation, the Ritz Carlton group, and the U.S. Social Security Administration. He recently was voted #1 by the readership of Huffington Post as the Most Inspirational Leader on Social Media.

A published author on leadership and emotional intelligence, Steve resides near Seattle with his wife Julie where they enjoy time with their three adult children and six grandchildren.

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    About Steve Gutzler

    Steve Gutzler is the President of Leadership Quest, a premier leadership development company based in Scottsdale. As a dynamic and highly sought-after speaker, Steve has delivered over 2,500 impactful presentations to renowned organizations such as Microsoft, Starbucks, the Seattle Seahawks, Spotify, Boeing, Cisco, Starwood Hotels, Ritz-Carlton, and the U.S. Department of Commerce.

    A published author and thought leader on leadership and emotional intelligence, Steve lives near Scottsdale with his wife, Julie. Together, they cherish time spent with their three adult children and six grandchildren.

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