Seven Ways Leaders Increase Their Emotional Capacity During Tough Times
I shared I felt their pain and was grappling with similar ranges of emotions. I also shared what I had found to be key in helping reframe my mindset in order to get out of the emotional heap pile I was living in.
Here are seven practical ways to increase your emotional intelligence during tough times:
1. Feed the positive emotional dog
There is a tug-of-war over emotions. Like dogs fighting inside of us, in a way. One is positive and the other is negative. This week, try to feed the positive dog of emotions because the dog you feed the most wins the battle. One way I have increased my positive emotional dog is by listening to podcasts during my walks or when I exercise. I’ve found that to be helpful.
2. Do not RSVP to any pity parties
Pity only leads you down a path to dead ends. Fight for your minds right to be a positive leader, not a pity leader.
3. Identify small people and move on
I actually discontinued a client engagement, phasing them out due to their “small thinking and speaking” as a whole. I felt it was bringing a negative force to my team and was impacting my emotions. It is important to guard your relationships both professionally and personally.
4. Clean up your prison quarters
I’ve felt like a prisoner in my own home. My wife Julie and I planted potted flowers, washed our outdoor furniture, and cleaned our living space. It was amazing how emotionally energized we both felt afterwards.
5. Talk to yourself
On my daily walks, I talk to myself with seven self affirmations: I am… strong, healthy, positive, optimistic, energized, caring, and faith-filled.
6. Step off the roller coaster
Even out the “high and lows” you may be experiencing and strive to be emotionally level, even calm.
I once saw a story about a guy who got to play a round of golf with the PGA great Sam Snead. On hole one, Snead made a triple bogie, seven (three strokes over par). As they exited the green to go to the next hole, Snead was unruffled and explained, “That’s why we play eighteen holes.”
7. Create a clean slate
Several years ago, I made a bad financial decision. I was angry at myself, disappointed, and depressed. As I explained it to my wife, she took my hand and said, “Steve, let’s create a clean slate.” It lifted a huge burden. The burden was heavier than my mistake itself.
Where do you need to create a clean slate? Where do you need to forgive yourself? Life is too short to carry burdens of emotional hurt and hang ups.
This week and in the weeks ahead, build some emotional capacity to strengthen your days.
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About the Author
Steve Gutzler is the President of Leadership Quest, a Seattle-based leadership development company. Steve is a dynamic, highly-sought-after speaker who has delivered more than 2,500 presentations to a list of clients including Microsoft, Starbucks, the Seattle Seahawks, Pandora Radio, Boeing, Cisco, Starwood Corporation, the Ritz Carlton group, and the U.S. Social Security Administration. He recently was voted #1 by the readership of Huffington Post as the Most Inspirational Leader on Social Media.
A published author on leadership and emotional intelligence, Steve resides near Seattle with his wife Julie where they enjoy time with their three adult children and six grandchildren.