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“It’s not how will we survive, but how will we prevail.” 

As a little boy he would often cry himself to sleep at night. In the 6th grade at a boarding school in England, he struggled painfully with his studies and was hopelessly failing. During recess, he would run into the woods and hide because the other boys would relentlessly tease him. They said he had a head that was too big!

Finally, one day the school master sent a note home to his mother. It simply read, “Your boy shows a conspicuous lack of success.” His mother used it as a tool for motivation instead of humiliation.

Years later this little boy had grown into Sir Winston Churchill. He waved that very same note as he was sworn in as Prime Minister of the British people twice (1940-1945 and 1951-1955).

He became the “Voice of Hope” and a great world leader who took on Hitler and the evils of Nazi Germany. In one of his great speeches he said, “Everyone is asking on the streets, ‘How will the British people survive?’ We are asking the wrong question. It’s not how will we survive, but how will we prevail?”

He taught the British people to have a prevailing spirit!

What about your personal leadership?
• Has someone tried to pin a note on you like “a conspicuous lack of success?”
• Has a so-called failing or setback in your business or relationship convinced you to devalue your personal worth?

I HOPE NOT!

It is time to shift!

Simply put, let those “small voices” fire you up. Shift from surviving to prevailing! Churchill hit the pinnacle of leadership in his 60’s and 70’s. It is not too late for you or for me!

I remember over 25 years ago when I was about to move my little family to Seattle to start my life over. I had a leader I respected deeply tell me “Steve, you are making a big mistake. It is too risky. Don’t do it.” He chuckled as he told me I would be a “casualty.”

It was exactly what I needed to hear! It fired me up! There were some tough and turbulent times. We didn’t know a soul and we were lonely. But years later, Seattle is home and we love it. I am grateful to have established a prevailing leadership company teaching other organizations to prevail! I have new life-long friends and scores of great memories with plenty more to be made! The leader who gave me the negative advice has since passed away. But I still owe him a lot. That was my Churchill moment.

You can have one too!
Prevail!

“I have nothing to offer but blood, toil, tears, and sweat.”


“Success is not final, failure is not fatal. It is courage to continue that counts.”

For information on keynote presentations, team workshops, and one on one coaching, contact Steve at:

steve@stevegutzler.com

425.681.9871

Leading yourself starts with looking closely at who you are

Leading yourself starts with looking closely at who you are

LEADING YOURSELF WITH EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

“Steve, you’re going so fast and you’re so uptight you just missed the turn. Now we need to backtrack.”
Julie Gutzler in the passenger seat on I-5.

We have always been blessed to take a lot of vacations. When our kids were growing up Disneyland was our annual destination. It’s the “Happiest Place on Earth,” except not for me. I would get uptight, impatient, ticked off and stressed out. Julie, my wife, was the calming anchor. I was the raging ship. Even though the kids were fine and always had a blast, I always felt hurried allowing the crazy crowds to choke out the fun of the moment.

For me the biggest battle in life is against myself. Not against my wife, kids, the people I lead, or the people who have influenced me- it’s against me. I would find myself wondering what I could do if I could only lead myself more effectively.

“Playing Big” is about playing your best. It’s “You version 2.0” It’s about playing, living, and leading at your highest level.

Recently, we went on another vacation to Mexico and I was finally able to slow down. I enjoyed the moments and enjoyed being with my family. Even through some of the quirky events we crossed while in Mexico, I was able to “Play Big” and roll with the punches. My family seemed to relax more and were able to enjoy Dad more as well (making me realize, again, that my emotions are not only affecting me). It was like I was experiencing some new private victories in “Leading Steve.”

Play Big: Key Pointers

  • Eat clean
  • Act to win
  • Find the good in the day
  • Breath… Breath…
  • Slow down
  • Practice appreciation

Now that we have two of the ten weeks up and running, a pretty good feel of the series should be developing. I think you will enjoy this series on PLAYING BIG. I hope my real-life experiences and my journey of learning to Play Big will help you connect and will provide some insight to the difficulties of really building an emotionally intelligent self. I promise, that despite all the challenges, the payoff is more than worth it- it’s Extraordinary.

Don’t miss next weeks post! PLAYING BIG PART 3 including more on EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

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Play Big Training

Steve’s one day training on Emotional Intelligence for Extraordinary Leadership will transform your team’s effectiveness.

Harness the power of the Number 1 predictor of professional success and personal performance

  • Perfect for sales teams
  • Team organizations seeking better performance and results
  • Managers and leaders becoming effective in bringing out the best in the team
  • How to build fierce loyalty with customers using Emotional Intelligence

Contact Steve:
Steve@stevegutzler.com
425-681-9871

 

PLAYING BIG:
Understanding the power of your emotions, accepting that they drive your behaviors, and learning to use your self-awareness to build an extraordinary life.

 

EMOTIONS DRIVE OUR BEHAVIORS

“Plan an emotional re-charge into your day by eating healthy and listening to your inspirational music” –Steve Gutzler

Over ten years ago I became a student of Emotional Intelligence which led to my participation in a four-day training workshop on the fascinating subject. I’ll never forget the first day. It was the day that entirely changed my understanding of leadership, relationships, and life.  The instructor was discussing the topic of emotions and their relationship to our lives. Then, he calmly stated: “Emotions drive behavior.”

For the first time, the words sunk in and stuck.

He then opened the workshop up for discussion and I considered the thoughts: “What about my values?” and “What about my faith?” and, suddenly, “I’m not just a jumbled ball of emotions!” I was feeling hot and frustrated by the instructor’s statement. I was wound up! I was going to prove him wrong. I could feel my temperature beginning to rise, my heart rate begin to quicken, my palms dampen, my lip protest from being bitten, my brow furrow. The instructor spotted me. He pointed out that I seemed to have a strong opinion on the discussion topic. Suddenly, I realized I had become… dare I say it… emotional!

What I learned that day was that my emotions are driving my behaviors. While there are other parts of our lives that are important to us, we need to realize that we are emotional about those elements, which is why they are important to us. My emotional, spiritual, and physical are all intertwined. They each affect each other and, in turn, can affect us and our behaviors.

Not everything we do is driven by our emotions. Not every behavior is dictated by some emotional discharge in our brain. But the majority of our choice of words, our responses to life’s challenges, our performances (for good or bad) are driven by our emotions.

 

I’ve slowly moved to believe that the majority of my emotional, spiritual, and physical are linked. Every day I am working to be aware of myself and the effect of my actions and emotions on others. Since that workshop ten years ago I have developed my emotional intelligence. But it is a daily journey.

Even though I have been actively working on this for ten years, the other day I was very low on blood sugar because I had not eaten in over eight hours and sure enough it affected my behavior during a stressful meeting. After the meeting I grabbed a quick bite to eat and… Bingo! I suddenly felt enormously better and quickly realized, “Steve, when are you going to learn to stay fueled?” I could have simply snacked on something healthy before the meeting to restore my blood sugar and I would have been able to balance my emotions more effectively despite the intensity of the meeting. I would have had a different result entirely.

Play Big: Key Pointers

  • Be self-aware of emotions driving your behaviors
  • Eat more often- especially healthy snacks
  • Work on yourself first
  • Understand how emotions drive our behaviors
  • Watch you moods and attitudes, they are contagious

Play Big Training

Steve’s one day training on Emotional Intelligence for Extraordinary Leadership will transform your team’s effectiveness.

Harness the power of the Number 1 predictor of professional success and personal performance

  • Perfect for sales teams
  • Team organizations seeking better performance and results
  • Managers and leaders becoming effective in bringing out the best in the team
  • How to build fierce loyalty with customers using Emotional Intelligence

For information regarding keynotes, training, and leadership coaching call or contact Steve via his website, email (steve@stevegutzler.com), or call him at 425 681 9871