A Short List in Building Better Relationships

How are your relationships? More importantly, how would others describe your relationships with them? I often say when speaking at leadership conferences, "Everything rises and falls on leadership and everything rises and falls on relationships."

How would you rate your relationships?

1 - LOW   10 - HIGH (Quality, Connectedness, Communication)

  • ___  Family Members
  • ___  Extended Family
  • ___  Close Friendships
  • ___  Work Partners
  • ___  Clients/Customers

Last year there was a 2 month span where I was traveling (literally) way too fast. I found myself running through the Dallas airport attempting to catch a connecting flight... which I missed. As I sat, exhausted and frustrated, in a Red Robin Restaurant in the airport terminal, something dawned on me. I had 3 hours to slow down and await a new flight. Time to sit and think...

  • This running needs to stop.
  • This pace is not natural or healthy.
  • This is not fun! And fun is one of my top 5 values.
  • This has been allowed and is eroding my most important relationships.
  • This is going to CHANGE! 

I have learned the incredible power of saying "no", and at the very least, "not that way". I have also learned to really connect with family and friends, I need to travel at their speed, not mine. 

Years ago I came across "A Short Course in Human Relationships". It reminds me what my priorities should be in relationships:

  • The least in important word: I
  • The most important word: We
  • The 2 most important words: Thank you!
  • The 3 most important words: All is Forgiven.
  • The 4 most important words: What is your opinion?
  • The 5 most important words: You did a good job.
  • The 6 most important words: I want to understand you better.  

Lets slow down and travel at the speed of those we have relationships with. Lets value the gifts in our life, the people in our life. Lets make those relationships a little better each day. 


You matter to me!


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