Four Ways Leaders Can Boost Their Emotional Intelligence

Great leaders inspire us. They ignite the best version of ourselves. Most importantly, they pull our best work out of us, improving our self-worth. They make us feel that we are a part of what's important, and they make us feel important. Emotional Intelligence is multi dimensional. The basic competencies include:

  • Emotional Self-awareness - Leaders with high self-awareness are attuned to their inner signals, recognizing how their feelings and moods affect them and those they interact with daily. 
  • Self-confidence - Self-confident leaders take on challenging assignments. They possess a sense of presence, poise, and self-assurance. 
  • Self-control - Leaders with emotional self-control find ways to manage their challenging emotions and impulses. Staying calm and clear-headed is a hallmark of great leaders. 
  • Transparency - Leaders who are transparent communicate their values and live them. They are open about their feelings, beliefs, and choices. They are leaders who can admit fault, apologize... and move forward. 
  • Optimism - A leader with optimism can quickly shift from a problem and convert it in to a challenge to be solved. They see life through the lens of possibility and positivity. They believe the future can and will be brighter. 
  • Developing Others - Leaders who are adept at cultivating abilities show a genuine interest in the success of others. They ask about their goals, strengths, what they enjoy. These leaders provide constructive feedback and lift the vision of those around them to see the next level of what's possible. 

To excel in your field and boost your Emotional Intelligence, here are 4 key tips:

  1. Make a strong first impression
    • Smile sincerely
    • Have extraordinary eye-contact
    • Take genuine interest in others immediately
    •  Greet others with warmth, charm, and ease 
  2. Lead the conversation toward their world not yours 
    • Enter conversations by asking sincere questions 
    • Treat them like the VIP they are
    • Ask follow up questions rather than "one-up" them with your opinions or stories
  3. Affirm their stories and actions 
    • Affirm their ideas and working solutions
    • Affirm their unique personal drive
    • Affirm their progress... point it out
    • Affirm what's working, shine a light on it
  4. Work daily to self-manage your emotions
    • Learn the power of not responding immediately
    • Understand that emotional hijacking can last 18-20 minutes, breathe
    • Learn to disengage so you can reengage more powerfully
    • Don't treat yourself like a machine - take rest and recovery seriously

Your highest performing leaders work to improve their Emotional Intelligence skills weekly. Which tip will you choose to boost and improve relationships and connections with others this week?

Here's to boosting your Emotional Intelligence!


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The purpose of Leadership Quest is to help professionals develop their personal leadership, vision and emotional intelligence. Everyday I strive to help leaders and teams achieve their desired goals in sales productivity, leadership, time maximization, and life-balance.